Who told YOU that you
"Can't Dance?" Did you hear teasing comments in your childhood from your brother, sister, friends, . . .who told you how silly you look, Or did you take an adult dance lesson only to hear a long list of corrections from the teacher telling you "how wrong your feet are" and all the things you were doing wrong. so all you really learned was "How bad of a dancer I am" Or, more likely, did such a discouraging comment come from your own mouth, or from inside your own head? Was it YOU who said that? Because usually our worst critic is our OWN SELF... right? And no way you want to risk embarrassment. BUT... what if no one is looking? What if instead of looking dumb, you actually look good? Or if someone else did say it, negative comments can echo for years in our brains Some discouraging words that another person said without thought, often that they didn't even mean, or intend. Maybe such words were said as an attempted joke. Happens all day long these days in our modern culture. It's an easy target to make fun of -- someone's beginning to try a new kind of physical activity, especially dancing. Or any attempt at creative expression. Comedy sketches are full of them. But actually that's more often a symptom of defensiveness -- about their own nervous insecurity. A put-down of another person is a (wrong) way of making oneself feel superior? And criticizing words are often said in our culture way too easily, the person not even being serious about it. Too often, criticism sticks in our brain like Velcro, but compliments fall off like Teflon. Yeah, sure those Dancing with the Stars celebrities look great (Cheryl Burke I still love you) But no way you want to show your lack of skill in front of any audience, right? Why risk embarrassment. BUT... what if no one is looking? OR, what if instead of looking dumb, you actually look good? What if you look super COOOOOL dancing? Hmmmm?? BECAUSE... when you are feeling the rhythm of the dance steps, well, golly, gee willikers... its a PROVEN FACT that... It's a solid law of Nature, an immutable rule physics, an indisputable pillar of psychology. that, when YOU ARE FEELING GOOD dancing. You look great! Extremely attractive, in fact. Yes, finding that happy FEELING in dance, will DEFINITELY make you LOOK GOOD, look VERY good in fact. and prove all those negative critics wrong, including yourself. But in order to start FEELING good while dancing ... you've got to actually START DANCING.... so why not start NOW?
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FOOT Notes from Teacher PeggyAuthorPeggy Pollard has been teaching social/ballroom dance in Santa Cruz since 2010. Archives
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